要找到快乐，就要放弃自我 To find happiness, be a pushover

 

我们活在一个个人主义之上的社会里。人人都说要去追梦、要找到自己、要做自己。这些都是在膨胀自我。人人都觉得自己是对的、是最重要的、不可被磨灭。

人为什么会不快乐？就是因为我们希望改变身边的人。但是人是很难改变的。我们把自己的价值观套在别人身上，当然会不快乐。如果能放弃自我去迎合身边的人的需求，就会天下太平。这不是压抑自己，而是本来就没有自我，所以何来压抑。没有期待，就没有失望。别人为我们做的一点点小事，我们就会觉得是意外惊喜和收获，懂得感恩。

谬论？

We live in an age where individualism is worshipped. We are told "Follow your dreams", "Be yourself", "Be authentic", "You are special", "Find out who you really are", "Be true to yourself". All these messages are about "me me me". Our egos are inflated.

People rarely change. We become unhappy when we expect them to, but they don't. We think the world and the people around us are not right, according to our standards and values. That's why we are frustrated. When we learn to go with the flow and give people what they need, we will be happier.

Let go of your self. Don't say or do anything that hurts or offends the people around you. This is not about suppressing yourself and your wants, and tolerating people around you. It is about not having your self or wants in the first place, so there is no tolerating. When you have no expectations, you won't be disappointed. Instead, you get happily surprised with every little thing people do for you.

Controversial?